I know I haven't written much about dealing with and working on RAD lately. It is because I am seeing very few RAD behaviors. Both of our boys are doing well. We spent the day at a swim meet yesterday. In the past that would have meant the boys would fight, complain and glare at me almost constantly. We'd separate them but then one would go to the bathroom and never come back. The other would need to go and if we let them they'd find each other and fight. I swear there are some type of magnets inside that draw them together. Trauma magnets.
But yesterday they just sat there quietly. They brought along hand held games and books as usual but this time they actually used them. I remember no complaints. I did not see one arguement or fight, not even in the car. Dancer and I ran and got Jimmy Johns. They ate their meals. Well, Taz did complain a little on that one I guess, but normal kid stuff.
Never lose hope. Taz was 12 and Teddy was 15 when we went to attachment therapy. Teddy has only begun showing signs of healing since age 17. If any one tells you your child cannot heal because they are older, do not listen.
Never, never, never quit. Loving eyes, gentle voice, empathy and loving appropriate touch.....consistency, regulate yourself before trying to regulate them, take care of your own body and soul...You can do this.