My freshmen sons have a field trip to World's of Fun in Kansas City today. I can hear the alarms going off in the teacher's head about my son. Funny, same alarms I hear. I received 2 emails of concern and signed a contract stating consequences if he didn't follow the rules. He had a rough day yesterday but I feel it was behavior following an effective attachment therapy session rather than end of school behavior. In art, they were up doing things. Someone used his chair. This set him off in a pretty loud, angry way, I guess. They are on the bus and gone for the day. My thoughts will be on them. Prayers will be said. His day has to be his though. He will have to deal with whatever consequences come along with behavior. When he gets home if I hear from a teacher my reaction will have to be: I support your actions. To him I will just have to say either "I'm glad you had fun or 'bummer'." It is HIS day not mine. My youngest has quit working and the grades are falling. I assure him they are his grades that reflect on him, not on me and that if he feels those are grades he wants, so be it. I also talk with him often about "air line pilot grades" or "lawn mowing" grades. When he grows up he wants to be a pilot. I tell him his grades now will help him get where he wants. Or he will not do the work and will mow people's lawns. The choices must be theirs. I have a college group interview today for the master's program. My own field trip! : )
