What if we could see the arrow in their hearts?

What if we could see RAD? Maybe some type of scan that made the painful areas light up. Maybe if we could see the arrow in their hearts. How would we react to their behavior then? I hate to compare children to a dog but it fits here. When a dog has been injured it sometimes snarls or bites at those who are trying to help. It is afraid and thinks you are hurting it and are going to make the hurt worse. Much the same our children snarl and snap at us assuming the hurting they are feeling is coming from us. Today when your child is angry try picturing an arrow in their hearts. Go to them tenderly and work on helping them feel safe and comforted.