This and That

Wall of Gratitude: A while back I put a marker board on the frig for people to write what they are thankful for. The kids were all writing on it often even Bear who generally is not aware of his blessings. They have stopped. I am the only one writing on it. They are both going through tough times. I think this is a good indicator of how they are feeling on the inside. I think I'll know when they are feeling better when they start writing again. Love the Wall of Gratitude.

Taz is regressing to some toddler behavior, movements and ways of talking. That means I need to during those moments give him what a toddler needs. He needs comfort, gentleness, snuggling and in general being accepted as a toddler. It tells me he is dealing with whatever upset him so much. I think it is a combination of several things actually.

Bear is still pushing back hard and strong after almost 10 years. 10 years of rejection is tough. It will be worth it. I am going to try a more BC approach with his negative comments though. I am going to work on myself as far as assuming when he makes a comment he really meant nothing by it. I am going to work on trying to look at things through his eyes. How does he view me? How does he view Taz? It may be a very warped view but it is his picture. Then I'm going to ask myself "If this is how I see her what do I need?" I'm going to really give this some thought and try some different approaches and get back to you.

Last of all, Halloween is fast approaching. Costumes, tons of candy and snacks are everywhere. We need to protect our kids with RAD from the scary movies, haunted houses and the mountains of sugar. None of those things make them stronger or feel safer.

Neuropsychologist/sinus surgery/regression

What a day! I started with the neuropsychologist's evaluation of my son. It lasted an hour and a half. This is the results, not the testing. My head is swimming with information and questions are finally starting to form. Thank God our attachment therapist went along because I am hoping he has a better grasp of it all then me. Our neuropsych is great and I know as things go along I can call her and ask her anything I want. She is that way. He is going to have to start seeing an Occupational Therapists for visual and sensory issues. There are also some memory issues. The thought of adding one more person to the mix is mind boggling but ok. My poor husband is having horrible headaches. He cannot come out of our bedroom all day because the light is just to much for him even though the drapes are drawn. He has a check up tomorrow but the doctor's office assures us this is normal for this point after sinus surgery. Our youngest is picking this week to regress. Of course he is. The good news is I know it will pass. The bad news is ....he's having it. So he is defiant, cranky and mean. Oh well. He told me he is going to be really annoying until he gets what he want. I told him I cannot be annoyed but to go ahead and give it a try. I'm sure he will oblige. I have to go pick up my son who swims from the Y and feed him so I can take him to driver's ed. Sometimes my kids threaten to drive me crazy. I tell them it will be a short trip. Oh wait. GREAT news. My husband and I celebrate our 25th anniversary next winter. We started getting trip information from our travel agent through email today. Perfect. I can picture myself relaxing on the beach when I am stressed. And you know, in my mind I don't need to do any crunches!