Living with RAD

I'm not going to have much time to blog this week. I have a 300 question Psychopathology midterm next Monday. My current project is learning to live with Bear and his RAD until he is ready to heal or moves on which ever comes first. He has started back to Attachment therapy an hour and a half away every other week. With me going to classes 2 nights a week this is a major difficulty but I feel it has to be done considering his current frame of mind. I think maybe what we need to attack head on is his depression. Nothing has worked for it so far but I think we need to really focus on it before he is going to make any progress with the RAD. But my question for our therapist next time is going to be : What does living with a teen with RAD look like when you pull back and are not pushing the attachment issue any more? When you no longer are expecting any change soon and realize this is not the time for him, how do you get through each day with any sense of calm in your household? This is a big question to me. I'll let you know what he says. If any of you are dealing with an older teen who has not successfully attached after a long period of time, let me know your thoughts! Have a healing day!