Healthy Attachments

We all feel and hope we have healthy attachments with our family members. How did that happen? What caused it? I never even thought about it before RAD. There are some great books on bonding with your baby:
http://www.attachment.org/mm5/merchant.mvc?Screen=PROD&Store_Code=attachment&Product_Code=144&Category_Code=parentinftodd

On bonding with your toddler:
http://www.attachment.org/mm5/merchant.mvc?Screen=PROD&Store_Code=attachment&Product_Code=145&Category_Code=BOOKSTODD

This is an excellent site on attaching activities with your child. Click on parenting.

http://www.kuddlekids.com/

And this site has a long list of articles on Nurturing Activities.

http://www.attachmentdisorder.net/Nurturing_Activities.htm

This last article speaks of the 3 key ingredients in attachment:

http://www.athealth.com/consumer/farticles/Wesselmann.html

The time and effort we put into attaching to our child will help them in all future relationships as well as their relationship with us. They will feel more secure and be better adults. It is hard to put this positive aspect into parenting RAD children because they often become so abrasive when we try. We have to look past it and do it anyway. As a good friend of mine says "Fake it til you make it."

Our lives with RAD

I am once again giving blogging a try. We are in the midst of attachment therapy at our house. On the website http://www.attachmentdisorder.net/ there is the story of a bridge. Your child with RAD is on one end of the bridge and you are on the other. Mom's tend to run across the bridge to meet our child at the first sign of their interest in coming across. Generally this ends up in scaring them and they blow up the bridge. We are hurt and wonder what happened and start again. They recommended that mom stay on the far side of the bridge and wait til the child comes all the way across. Our son R is a good ways across the bridge and we hope he'll be here soon. Our other son, A has just figured out that the bridge is there and is looking it over. Patience is a virtue!!!!!!!!