Thanks to Rick at Organized Doodles for the above illustration. That's me in the picture. Bear and Dancer are in the background. : ) Not really.
I know some of you home school, some have kids in private and some in public school. I really respect your right to do what you believe is in the best interest for your child. Taz starts on Thursday. Bear and Fish start on Friday. Dancer leaves for college on Sunday. Eagle spent the summer in AR so she is already down there. The house will return to quiet. There will be time to do my own homework, run errands, clean house do laundry and HAVE TIME FOR MYSELF. I have massage scheduled for next Tuesday.
Bear is going out and putting in 3 more job applications today. He is it a point where we have had to make some difficult decisions. He knows exactly in his head what he needs to do to attach to me. He knows he needs to separate me from birth mom, stop blaming me for her actions and take some little steps to try and trust me. He says it is too hard and he is not ready yet. I tell him that is a dangerous statement. None of us knows how much time we have. He does know he has 3 years left until he graduates and then we expect him to try a community college, a trade school or get a job and an apartment. 3 years to a mom is a blink of an eye. 3 years to a teen is a long long time. So.....if after over a year of intensive attachment therapy and EMDR therapy he still refuses what do we do? We have decided to take the pressure off. We have backed off and said the decision is up to him. He is really waiting for us to fix it for him because he sees himself as incapable. We have to start preparing him to live as an adult. He needs to find a job. He has filled out many applications and had one interview. It may take a few interviews but even that is a learning experience. It may take a few jobs but it is once again a learning experience. He needs to learn how to balance a check book, pay bills, buy groceries. He has a lot to learn in the next 3 years.
