Taz has had a really rough time calming back down since his birthday. This morning he woke explosively angry which we have not seen in a long time. He did something extremely inappropriate which I don't feel I can share but said he didn't care and laughed. I have known him for 11 years and I will tell you this child does care. I used to fear he had no conscience but have figured out that is not true at all.
He is the most angry and defiant when he is over wrought by guilt. I am giving him some cool down time right nowhe is running through the main floor like a wild man. To talk with him now would be disasterous as he would escalate. He has definitely done something more I don't know about yet. I just tell him now and then that he is showing his fear and I'm here when he is ready to talk. Never, never, never quit.
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Went to the Denise Best conference yesterday. One of her big talking points is shame. Was a good reminder for me.
Love you.
Oh ... and I also love you.
:)
I'm such a perfectionist with myself. Sorry for the two deletes. I wish there was a way to edit. Anyway,
I wanted to say this:
I hope your child regulates soon, that you can break through and have peace in the home. I will pray for that.Thank you for sharing your journey with us so that we can relate and support you. Your posts often help me get unstuck in some thought pattern and you did this on the current post as well. I'm sorry you're having a relapse with your child. They are no fun.
I was just thinking how in survival, it's not a matter of conscience. I can't imagine feeling like I must lie to just to stay alive. What is it like in such a sad world like RAD?
I will keep you and your family in prayer.
Yes, "I don't care" (usually louder the more they care) echoes again and again when my 10 yr. old can't forgive himself.
That is very interesting. I guess I never really thought about or noticed that maybe when my son does this it is for the same reasons. Thanks for sharing Brenda!
nice post. I would love to follow you on twitter.
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