I just came from Taz's IEP. If your child is not involved is special education that is the Individual Education Plan. Kids in Special Ed have them once a year to evaluate how the child is progressing, discuss any changes that might need to be made and then make a plan for the year ahead. It is not a school year but a calendar year from the last IEP. Every three years they do all the testing and evaluating to see if there are any changes.
This is the first year that Reactive Attachment Disorder was not discussed in his IEP meeting. Not once. He has some behaviors, blurting out, rude remarks, not always doing homework. He has all Bs with one A. Is this the same kid???????? It was by far the most positive IEP we have ever had.
The reason I am telling you this is that a few years ago this is a child who spent most of his time in the self contained room because of his rages. They would have to put him in the time out room where he would scream and kick and have a fit. He would refuse to come inside the building if he went out. He would hide under tables. He would not sit down. He would do very little work. He was in physical fights with other kids.
Never lose hope of healing. Do I think we will never have any of the above problems again? No. That would be naive. The old fears creep back from time to time. But they are short lived and are fewer and further between. Healing is taking place in Taz's life every day and I pray you see it in your child too.
Remember: Empathy, loving eyes, gentle touch, sweet food to their lips from your hands, keep yourself calm (Allie I did not use the R word just for you) and keep the boundaries tight so they learn to feel safe and loved. Its tough work but you can do it and then they will too!
Have a healing day!