You are safe.
You are loved.
You will always be loved.
I will never leave you.
I see great hope for your future.
I'm so glad I'm your mom.
You are a gift from God.
I wish you could see what I see when I look at you.
You are so handsome.
You are so smart.
You are sweet.
All these are affirmations our children need to hear. They feel so bad about themselves. How bad does a child have to be to have a mom not want them? Not feed them? It is not their fault. SHE had the problems she did not deal with.
For Valentine's I am making each of my kids a little book. Nothing fancy. It will have an acrostic on the front of their name simialr to this:
On the inside it will say Why I love you and then all the pages will tell why. Give some special love on Valentine's Day. Don't expect anything in return. Just give it because it is from your heart.