Monday, September 22, 2008
Kids with RAD are immature. I bet you never noticed that ; ) If you stop and think about the age they were when the worst trauma occurred and then think about the behavior when they are at their most immature I bet the ages match up pretty closely. My boys were removed from the home at ages 3 and 9 mths. Then they were in foster care for 3 years in 4 different homes. So when Bear goes back he is very preschoolish. When Taz goes back he is very toddlerish. It is important when they go back to stop and go back with them. Let them know they are safe. Hold them and rock them if they will let you. Or read them a book, get out the play dough or just start singing. My boys find these types of activities comforting and I think that is what they are really looking for when they go back. Some comfort from the trauma.