Tuesday, June 24, 2008
Fake It Til You Make It
My child with RAD has completely shut down since we stopped attachment therapy. He will not let me back in. My first reaction to his anger is to shut down myself. To back away and be hurt. This will not help to feel safer or deal with what it is he so far will not put into words. I have found in the past it is easiest to start with something that doesn't require the loving eye contact such as a hug, a hand on the back or being gentle with my voice. If I can make my body do the right things sometimes the brain follows. Then the eyes will follow. It is difficult to love and not be loved back but that is exactly what we must do. Remember the trauma. Remember they are hurt. Keep on keeping on.