Eye contact! I've heard it said the the eyes are the window to the soul. One of the symptoms of RAD is lack of eye contact on parents terms. That doesn't even mean "Look at me when I talk to you" necessarily. It is when you are trying to look lovingly at your child and they avoid that look at all cost. Another symptom is that they look you straight in the eye if they are lying. They also try to get you to make eye contact as a way of controlling or staring at you. So we do a lot of activities that involve eye contact. When they want to talk to me they have to come all the way to me and say "Mom" and wait until I make eye contact and then begin. No yelling from the other room. I look them in the eye when I tell them I love them and they can look back without flinching. If they come up to tell me something and I am busy, if I can, I stop what I am doing and look at them. I never realized before RAD became a part of our lives how much I do not look at people when I talk to them. I have made a much more conscious effort to stop what I am doing and give people my full attention. In many many ways I feel RAD has made me become a better person, friend, mother and wife. I have learned so many more ways to show and tell people I love them.