Monday, April 25, 2011

Oppositional Behavior ODD or Trauma

Oppositional Defiant Disorder or Trauma?
by Caelan Kuban

Children with a history of traumatic experiences exhibit greater oppositional defiant behaviors than children without exposure to trauma. This is most likely the result of the negative physiological impact trauma has on core regulatory systems, compromising a child’s ability to regulate and process sensory inputs. Changes in the body’s critical stress response system prevent the modulation of sensory deregulation, making the child incapable of self-regulating their emotions and behavior. The experience of trauma increases vulnerability to stressors, even mild stressors that healthy individuals are able to handle. For example, simple problem solving becomes difficult, causing anger and confusion in a child that simply “does not know what to do” about a situation, ultimately resulting in rage, aggression and other oppositional defiant-like disorders.

Under stress, traumatized children’s analytical capacities are limited and behaviorally react with confusion, withdrawal and/or rage. Rather than making a gradual shift from right brain hemisphere dominance (feeling and sensory) to dominance of the left hemisphere (language, reasoning, problem solving) resulting in an integration of neural communication between hemispheres, they react only from their “sensory” or right brain often lacking the “thought” or planning before action is taken.

Interestingly, many of the symptoms and reactions present in Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) are parallel to the symptoms and reactions in children post-trauma. More than 800,000 children are exposed to trauma annually from abuse and neglect alone. Twenty percent of those children are observed to have dramatic changes in behavior consistent with ODD following a traumatic event. It would be beneficial to develop guidelines helping pediatricians and other early childhood professionals routinely screen for the presence of trauma-related symptoms and impairments even in very young children. This would prevent the mislabeling of ODD in later years. As one of the top diagnoses given to children today, it is certainly important to understand both the etiology and intervention options proposed for ODD. When ODD is viewed from a biological and trauma-informed perspective, compassion from parents, caregivers, and teachers often follows.

Sunday, April 24, 2011

Attitude....What's yours?

"There is nothing - no circumstance, no trouble, no testing - that can ever touch me until first of all it has gone past God, past Christ, right through to me. If it has come that far, it has come with a great purpose, which I may not understand at the moment. But as I refuse to become panicky, as I lift my eyes to Him and accept it as coming from the throne of God for some great purpose of blessing to my own heart, no sorrow will disturb me, no trial will ever disarm me, no circumstance will cause me to fret for I shall rest in the joy of what my Lord is. This is the rest of victory."




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"The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important that facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. It will make or break a company . . . a church . . . a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day, We cannot change our past . . . we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way, We cannot change the inevitable, The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude . . . I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.”

- Charles Swindoll

It's a marathon...a RAD marathon

I haven't been on for awhile, a wedding, a reception, and 3 graduations....and yes. These were all our own children. I've also been training for a 5k. No small feat for a non runner, athlete like myself. I did run the entire way in a 5k last weekend!  I have another coming up in June and my goal is to start improving times. Don't even ask what the first one was. I'm not telling.  Many people in Nebraska are training for a half Marathon in Lincoln.  I see full Marathons are coming up.  No way I'm interested in those at this point and I think 5k is where I'll stay.

BUT I am doing another kind of marathon, parenting children with RAD.  We have had some big tough stuff this spring to deal with. Another major episode involving police this last weekend. It is exhausting. It is an emotional, physical marathon of sorts.

The other day Teddy was really acting out verbally towards me. In the midst of this he said "I need new shoes." Not surprising as children with RAD have little cause and effect thinking and tons of entitlement issues.  I said "I don't feel like buying them right now while you are talking to me this way. They are not in that bad of shape anyway." He actually said OUT LOUD "I will rip them up and wear them to school and tell people that you will not buy me new ones. Then they will all feel sorry for me for having a mom like you."  Oh my goodness does that speak volumes....

This brings me back to the point...What does a marathon runner do to prepare for the marathon?

Find other runners, clubs, places to train...in other words...seeks support.

Train....We read, go to workshops, read some more, and find other parents who can share and lift us up.

Eat healthy....this one is often overlooked by moms and we can become emotional eaters and start packing on the weight. Eat healthy, low fat foods and you will have more energy, be physically stronger and when your blood sugar stopping swinging from all those bad carbs you will have less moodiness. Would a marathon runner do well on your diet? Well, not on mine either, but it is improving all the time.

Exercise....Of course a marathon runner gets tons of exercise besides running. For parents, exercise produces endorphins. Endorphins produce of feeling of well being. I have always heard of "runner's high" and once you get used to running there really is that great feeling at the end. You don't have to run though. Getting outside and breathing deep (which sends more oxygen to your brain) by walking is great too. I have some little dumbbells from Target in my bedroom and I use those. I have exercise DVDs. It does not have to be an expensive gym membership.

Spiritually....Draw strength from your relationship with God. Nurture it because as with any relationship there must be time spent with God in order for the relationship to strengthen. He will see you through. Not just trite words.

It's a marathon.. We are running it together! You are not alone.