Sunday, April 24, 2011

It's a marathon...a RAD marathon

I haven't been on for awhile, a wedding, a reception, and 3 graduations....and yes. These were all our own children. I've also been training for a 5k. No small feat for a non runner, athlete like myself. I did run the entire way in a 5k last weekend!  I have another coming up in June and my goal is to start improving times. Don't even ask what the first one was. I'm not telling.  Many people in Nebraska are training for a half Marathon in Lincoln.  I see full Marathons are coming up.  No way I'm interested in those at this point and I think 5k is where I'll stay.

BUT I am doing another kind of marathon, parenting children with RAD.  We have had some big tough stuff this spring to deal with. Another major episode involving police this last weekend. It is exhausting. It is an emotional, physical marathon of sorts.

The other day Teddy was really acting out verbally towards me. In the midst of this he said "I need new shoes." Not surprising as children with RAD have little cause and effect thinking and tons of entitlement issues.  I said "I don't feel like buying them right now while you are talking to me this way. They are not in that bad of shape anyway." He actually said OUT LOUD "I will rip them up and wear them to school and tell people that you will not buy me new ones. Then they will all feel sorry for me for having a mom like you."  Oh my goodness does that speak volumes....

This brings me back to the point...What does a marathon runner do to prepare for the marathon?

Find other runners, clubs, places to other words...seeks support.

Train....We read, go to workshops, read some more, and find other parents who can share and lift us up.

Eat healthy....this one is often overlooked by moms and we can become emotional eaters and start packing on the weight. Eat healthy, low fat foods and you will have more energy, be physically stronger and when your blood sugar stopping swinging from all those bad carbs you will have less moodiness. Would a marathon runner do well on your diet? Well, not on mine either, but it is improving all the time.

Exercise....Of course a marathon runner gets tons of exercise besides running. For parents, exercise produces endorphins. Endorphins produce of feeling of well being. I have always heard of "runner's high" and once you get used to running there really is that great feeling at the end. You don't have to run though. Getting outside and breathing deep (which sends more oxygen to your brain) by walking is great too. I have some little dumbbells from Target in my bedroom and I use those. I have exercise DVDs. It does not have to be an expensive gym membership.

Spiritually....Draw strength from your relationship with God. Nurture it because as with any relationship there must be time spent with God in order for the relationship to strengthen. He will see you through. Not just trite words.

It's a marathon.. We are running it together! You are not alone.


Nelly said...

Oh I sooo needed to read this today Thank you!!!

Tammy said...

Fantastic Blog. Happy Easter.

Last Mom said...

Thanks for the reminders!

Seven From Heaven said...

Thank you so much for this post. I have recently stopped exercising ( after doing it for about five years straight)because I just can't seem to find the time. Lately I have become very depressed and feel the weight of the world on my shoulders. This post really made me remember how important it is for me to take care of myself first. I think if I get back into the routine of exercising i'll feel better. Thanks again.

Becky said...

Wow, I am so blessed to read this post. I have also been running a marathon. I have two teen RAD sons. The younger one started acting up. The police showed up and yes, it was exhausting. Been going to counseling, saying prayers, etc. Things have calmed down for now. Praise God!

Delicia said...

Thanks for the reminder that I need to train too! After this afternoon and dealing with my RAD kid, I feel out of shape.