We generally have at least one if, not more of these fears. Chart form is easiest but no matter what I do my chart does not turn out so I'll cover each point as a sentence. There are four fears, common ways we over compensate and then how others usually feel.
- Insignifance. When we fear insignificance we tend to do big or act big. Others often feel irritated.
- Criticism. We need to control everybody and everything. Other often feel angry.
- Rejection. We need to please others, but then are angry because people do not always appreciate what we do. Others then feel hurt because they thought it is what we wanted.
- Hassle. Avoid confrontation at all cost. Others than feel helpless.
Above chart by Jackie Meyer of http://www.counselingandenrichment.com/