Thursday, May 27, 2010

Residential Treatment Facilities

We are still on our search for residential treatment for Teddy since his last threatening behavior. We believe it was serious enough that we cannot feel safe with him here and we don't think the other kids feel safe either.

We are on a waiting list for one place. Right Turn is helping me find resources in our new area. We have been here 1 week. I had no idea how much running around I'd have to do this week to get all the kids, hubby and I registered at all our different "stuff". UGH. Anyway, Right Turn has a call into Magellan for me. they are going to call my cell and discuss what is going on and what needs to happen to have them pay.  Giving up parental rights is not a choice as far as we are concerned. I know at times that is what Nebraska has parents do. I think it is wrong and abusive to not only the kids but to the parents and siblings. For some families it has been the only way they could get their kids help. I will fight that to the top

His anger continues at a far higher level. At 5'10" I can no longer feel safe when he rages.  Our new house set up is helpful as he has a room, bathroom and the family room all downstairs. Is that good for attachment? NO. If he were younger and we were working on that I would not do that. At this point we are focused on this one last year and trying to prepare him for adulthood. I do not know if he will be able to hold down a job as an adult. Right Way is helping us seek services that will help with that as well.

So much.

Never, never, never quit.

10 comments:

Julie said...

I am so sorry that Teddy has escalated to such anger.

Praying you get the help for him that he needs.

Christine said...

Love you, love you, love you.

GB's Mom said...

Twenty something years ago, I had to surrender my adopted son to get him help. He was 12. I pray you don't have to.

Mom 4 Kids said...

Supportive thoughts coming your way as you and your family journey through this patch. Hugs!

Brenda said...

GB's Mom~ I am so sorry that did that to you. I think it is an act of great love for the parent to put their child's needs above their own. That is what you did. Teddy will be 18 next month. If he were younger it would be a completely differnet scenario. But I still think it is so immoral for anyonoe to force parents to give up their rights to get help for the child. It does not make sense and I can tell you that when I being to work in the fall I will be fighting it in legislature.

Life's Mom said...

Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.

Jennie said...

praying

familygregg said...

Brenda,

I have been absent...dealing with life. I am praying.

Love,
Dawn

J. said...

I hoope that you can get him the services he needs without to much of a battle. Love never fails.

peggysue said...

Brenda I've been thinking about you . . . hope you are okay. Have found a solution. You talked about services; at 18 years old is he even eligible for any? Your blog has been a lifeline for me.