Children with RAD break things. They have been moved from place to place during the early years often leaving all possessions behind. No one was careful with their hearts. They have been broken repeatedly. They do not value themselves. Everything they have could be gone tomorrow in their minds so of what value is it?
They want more. They have a hole in their hearts they think things will fill. They have a sense of entitlement.
I walked into Taz's room the other day. He was laying on the bedroom floor. He had the mattress on the floor on his right. The box springs on the left and the bed frame folded up to the left of that.
Long story short is that he jumped up and down on his bed and bent one of the parts of the frame and cracked the box spring. He weighs over 100 lb. I told him we do not replace what people break. We replace things if they are worn out. We replace things if they are outdated (sometimes). He immediately says "My night stand is outdated." Can we say "lack of cause and effect thinking". I pointed out the patched places on his wall, his smelly carpet (urine~his) and the fact that his bed is now on the verge of breaking. I told him when he shows he is strong enough to take care of what he has we will talk about replacing it.
Tough morning at our house. I would call his behavior close to psychotic. We will deal.