I am excited to be finishing another term of grad school this week. This puts me exactly halfway done with my classes! Time has flown but it has flown at a furious hurried pace! I do have my most difficult classes completed now so even though I will have homework it will not be so overwhelmingly difficult!! YEAH!
Finding a therapist! I am not sure how many we have been through. I have tried to make a list a few times only to think later "Oh what about him? What about her?" If your child has Reactive Attachment Disorder they need specialized care. At the right are some links to Attachment Therapists who have been listed on a couple of web sites. But what qualities do you want? Well I can only tell you what has been important to me:
1. Mom comes in with the child and they work on building trust of child to mom not child to therapist.
2. Therapist has had some training with Attachment therapists, not just read a few books or websites.
3. Therapist lets the child know how much they value your input and opinion and that you are a GREAT mom. Let's face it. You are.
4.Therapist understands the damage trauma does to the brain and thinking.
5. Therapist is familiar with a variety of methods, Nancy Thomas, Foster Kline, Beyond Consequences and incorporates the best of them all.
6.Therapist takes time alone with mom to see how you are doing emotionally and talk about ways they can support you and other places for you to find support. Eventually you need to be able to do this without them.
7.Therapist demonstrates attachment parenting to you when relating to the child.
8. Therapist lets you know that you are heard. They receive input, suggestions, concerns graciously and openly.
9. They are working to help you achieve YOUR goals, not theirs.
10. Therapist gives you some preparation and planning for ending therapy.
I hope these things help. Please feel free to offer your thoughts.