In church Sunday a woman walking down the aisle dropped her bulletin. Bear saw it and ran and picked it up and handed it to her. The lady in front of me turned around and said "that was nice." I felt myself bristle and said "He is nice to people who are not in his family." They looked completely shocked and turned around.....
WHY on earth would I say such a thing?????????? I was so disappointed in myself. It was a nice thing to do. I tend to read things into his actions and see them all as manipulation. Sure some of his actions are manipulative but not every one.
When I see those positive behaviors I should praise them and make note of them. Those are the behaviors I want to see more of. When they do anything positive toward me I need to view it as sincere and at least an effort, even if awkward, and reward the effort. This is a constant battle for me. . . not to read into his actions.
Anyone else have this problem?