Saturday, August 16, 2008
Let the Games Begin
Bears case manager at school emailed me yesterday. He has an excellent, involved hard working case manager who I appreciate very much. If I email with a request or an idea it is implemented right away. If you do not have a child in special ed in public high school a case manager is simply the special ed teacher put in charge of seeing that his IEP (Individual Education Plan ) is followed by all the different teachers and he kind of coordinates all that goes on with Bear. His email said "Bear came in and said he is a lot more mature this year. WOW!"........How many of you just rolled your eyes? Of course a child with RAD is going to say that. It is short hand for "leave me alone I can handle all things with no help from you." Sigh. I just said Thanks. Good. I hope he is successful. It is normal for teen to break away some from mom at 16 and want to be more independent. It is making the whole attachment work so difficult. Like I said before, it is all up to Bear at this point. I am trying to answer correctly. Very hard. Be loving. Dare I admit it is very hard. We have had no success in looking for a job. Our attachment therapist says that I should not be working harder than Bear....that would be impossible to do at this point. I do not know how I could work any less. The weekend is here. Today is Dancer's last day at home. Tomorrow she leaves for college 5 hours away. It will be me and the 4 guys again. And a couple of them will react negatively and with vigor to her leaving....to them it is yet another loss. Another person in their lives leaving.