We are back from a 4th of July weekend with family. Bear was big on triangulation this weekend. He did his best to snuggle up to relatives, be cute and funny. When I explained privately to the relatives they were very supportive as always and replied they didn't know. I am so blessed to have my family and in laws who trust Chris and my own judgment. I know not all of you have that. It was still a pretty tough weekend for Bear. He obviously felt very anxious much of the time. He was very loud and awkward in front of the other teens. When with me he would walk up and announce that some adult relative had given him permission to do something. I would tell him that I am his mom and have the final say and would discuss which ever activity he wanted to do and let him know if he could. Holidays and change in routine are tough on our kids. I'm glad to be home.
Thanks to Rick at Organized Doodles for the above artwork. I would like to add a PS in answer to Rick's comment about it being no holiday. For those of us who live with children damaged by trauma it is all relative....because of good therapists I have found ways to care for myself in each situation. One afternoon Chris and I went on a walk down a country road. One afternoon I went and sat in the porch swing with my sil and chatted. While the kids and my husband went out in the boat I walked across the park. My bil burnt me a hot dog just the way I like it for supper without me even asking. Enjoying the little things is the key to having a holiday be a holiday when it might not be a holiday : )