It is easy to think of the negative ways RAD has impacted our lives. The lives of our children have been changed by trauma in the early years. Their hearts heal slowly. We can let the issues of RAD weigh us down and make us feel we have sunk to the bottom of the ocean if we allow this to happen. First of all, we must separate the issues from the child. RAD is not who they are. Inside there is a loving, talented sweet person wanting out of this horrible disorder. But they cannot find the way out. We have to show them. But the path they must take is terrifying to them. Picture yourself in a dark and frightening maze. A very scary person is trying to lead you out of the maze, the whole while saying "Trust me. I am safe." How many of us would say "Sure thing" and walk on with this person? It must be horrible for them.
Today I want to focus on the positives that have come into my life personally because of my children with RAD. 1) I have taken a closer look at myself. I have dealt with issues of sadness and fear from my past that could have hung on my whole life if it were not for the boys. 2) Tonight I begin my first Master's class in Counseling. I consider it the first step toward a new career I probably never would have considered if it were not for our lives over the last few years. I want to work with children and families dealing with RAD. I certainly would not have done this without them. 3) I have made new friends. Lasting friends on the Internet all over the country. I am so glad I have "met" each of you and look forward to those to come. 4) My husband and I have drawn closer together. We have become more united and supportive of each other. We have a deeper appreciation of what the other does for us.
Stop and think of some positive changes in your life. Maybe you are in the beginning stages of healing and don't have anything to say. Know the positives will come. Look for them and embrace them. They will help make you stronger. Have a healing day!