There are 7 stages of grieving. A cycle has been established by Kubler-Ross. There is much more information at their website:
Here are the 7 stages of grieving:
You can click on the stage and it will take you to their site so you can read more about it.
Shock stage: Initial paralysis at hearing the bad news.
Denial stage: Trying to avoid the inevitable.
Anger stage: Frustrated outpouring of bottled-up emotion.
Bargaining stage: Seeking in vain for a way out.
Depression stage: Final realization of the inevitable.
Testing stage: Seeking realistic solutions.
Acceptance stage: Finally finding the way forward.
We grieve when we find out our children have RAD. Our children grieve about the loss' in their life. I am going through this cycle again. After over a year of Attachment and EMDR therapy my child is too afraid to move forward. I wanted it so much. Look at where you are in the cycle and know it is temporary. You will move on to the next stage and toward that day of healing. It is coming. Different time lines for different kids but keep believing!