Thursday, May 29, 2008
The Bible says that perfect love casts out fear. So how does this apply to my life as the mom of traumatized children? One is still ruled by fear. The other still easily has it take over. I allow it to take over me at times. For myself I believe the way to keep from parenting out of fear is to follow a plan. My son is working out a plan to stop therapy. I must have a plan for parenting without fear. 1. Trust. My son has no trust because his fear is too great. My trust is in the Lord and the fact that He will see me through. Never lose faith. 2. Hope. Do not allow myself to give up hope. When I feel it waining I talk to other moms, the therapist, and pray. We must keep hope alive. 3. Do. I often feel most courageous when I am "doing". When I stop and look at the situation it can become overwhelming. I think of it kind of like walking across a high wire "Don't look down." Keep my eyes on what I can do, not on the situation. If I don't know what to do I do research on line, start a new book, seek counsel as above of other moms, the therapist and through prayer. Our love for our children drives us forward. God's love for us will cast out our fear if we keep walking. Keep going. Don't stop and over think things. I hope you are not afraid today. If you are I hope my plan helps a little. I'll keep all you moms in my prayers today. Perfect love casts out fear.