1. Reframing: Learning to picture situation in a different way.
WW: Instead of "I can't have that food." "I choose not to eat that food."
RAD: Instead of "My child is full of rage." "My child is ill."
2. Positive self talk: Instead of having allowing the negative thoughts to dominate, talk to yourself positively
WW: "You are strong enough to do this. It will be worth it"
RAD: "ditto" : )
3. Motivating strategy: Find what motivates you and use it
WW: For me, getting physically fit was a big motivation.
RAD: See my child learn to love, trust and feel safe is huge.
4. Anchoring: Find your inner strength
WW: I find spiritual strength in God, physical strength from exercise, emotional strength in friends.
5. Storyboarding: Walk through the steps or "story" of how this should look.
WW: Before an event create a plan. Each day have a plan of how I want my eating to be scheduled. For me it helps to plan the food for the entire day and stick with it.
RAD: Learning how I should respond and also some proactive parenting behaviors for myself in attachment therapy and in books has helped.
6. Mental Rehearsing: Practice it. Believe it.
WW: For example, if you are going to be around a food pusher, practice what you will say to them.
RAD: Practice positive responses and behaviors to his negative behavior.
7. Empowering beliefs: Believe that you can do this.
WW: Believe that weight loss will happen.
RAD: Believe your child will heal.
I hope these will help you. They are also called Winning Outcomes. Know that you will reach your goal if you follow these steps. If we don't believe, who will?