We all have triggers for certain behaviors. For me donuts are a trigger for compulsive eating. Thus none of you see me in the donut room between Sunday School and church unless I am running through looking for someone. Other people have triggers for overspending, anger, or maybe alcohol. We discovered today at attachment therapy that a trigger for the boys is yelling. A is always talking about Chris and I yelling. I rarely yell anymore (notice I said anymore, it is something I have worked hard on) and Chris only now and then. And yet to talk to A we yell all of the time. A and R have done their best to manipulate and push buttons until we yell. So today we after we came home I listened. Sure enough they walk around pushing each others buttons until someone yells. It seems to be a primal need to have yelling at all times. It is the sound they were born around and raised around in the beginning; yelling and complete chaos. They need it. They crave it. So now Chris and I are working hard to change that. Our house is going to become a "yell free zone". I'll let you know how it goes.