Preparing for Adulthood with RAD

Teddy turned 18 yesterday. He had counesling today and then we met with the new doctor who will manage his meds. He is an APRN which is a nurse with a license to prescribe psychotopic meds. He took well over an hour for the first visit. It was impressive. I explained to him when Teddy was out of the room that I felt we have to really focus on preparing him to live as an adult with RAD rather than focusing on attachment.  The APRN and his current thrapist are really focusing on his anger. I realize (as do they) that his anger stems from RAD, but at this point he needs to learn to manager his anger and find other ways of expressing it.  We quit working hard on attachment when we stopped attachment therapy 2 1/2 years ago. At that point Teddy said frankly that he knew what he needed to do but that it was too hard. We decided to try to just not push it but be here ready should he become ready. That day did not come. I have reconciled myself to the fact that this is who he is for now. Does this mean I quit? No. This means I trust and have faith that God is working in his heart and will bring people and events into his life that will be what he needs. Gives fresh meaning to Let Go and Let God.  Never, never quit. We haven't but have to do it in a different way now. We are good.