One of the issues we have had with RAD is an inability to close a conversation. Kids with RAD will argue on and on and can make the subject last all day. I'm fully aware that no one can argue if no one takes part and continues. Yeah right! I have finally found an answer that works at our house.
My husband and I enjoy watching Seinfeld. One of the phrases used often in that show is "Yada Yada Yada". It means something similar to "and so on". You know, I went and bought groceries, filled the car with gas, Yada, Yada, Yada, errands are all run.
Now keep in mind that my boys are 14 and 17. I really am not doing this with a sense of sarcasm. I just want the conversation to stop. My boys know Yada, Yada, Yada and what it means. So now I say. "You are not walking 6 miles to WalMart. I'm done discussing it. Yada on." They shake their heads and walk away. After I say "Yada On" I refuse to say another word. I don't think it would work with little kids but it has put an end to the one sided verbal beating I had been taking when I would say no to something.
"No. You may not save up for a paint ball gun to shoot at your brother. Conversation over, but feel free to Yada On".
Have a great day yada, yada, yada.