We had a date night. My husband and I found each of the boys a place to stay. Together they form a united front that is difficult. Split up they become much easier to handle. I guess you could call it divide and conquer. We went out for dinner, stayed at the Holiday Inn and even had massages this morning. Ate lunch and came home. I feel refreshed. Of course, I know going into this that I will be paid back 3 fold when I get home. They are anxious and afraid while I am gone. I made them feel deserted. And yet, how will they learn that I am the mom who ALWAYS comes back if I never leave ? It was renergizing for my husband and me. I hope you all take date nights once in while. I find them essential.