tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134242791095743131.post7749636280568168980..comments2023-11-20T06:44:48.331-06:00Comments on LIVING WITH RAD: Discipline and RADBrendahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05811548306583601019noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134242791095743131.post-5329366347709470212009-03-21T10:53:00.000-05:002009-03-21T10:53:00.000-05:00We are currently working on having a "plan.&q...We are currently working on having a "plan." We talk about the lack of cause and effect thinking. When something is missing, you have to plan ahead, since it's not automatic.<BR/><BR/>The kids write down their plan. We talk about it regularly. When I start to sense the anxiety rising, I remind them in a very sweet, or very entertaining way.<BR/><BR/>We're actually practicing "thinking things through" ... what will happen if I make the bad choice ... what will happen if I make the good choice.<BR/><BR/>Granted, we only do this process with about 2% of the behaviors, otherwise we wouldn't have time to eat, sleep or pee. Yet, it seems to be helping in those moments. Will take years of practice.<BR/><BR/>Today, Mar wrote out a plan for the day. She is working on focusing on just a day at a time (sometimes just an hour at a time).<BR/><BR/>And for the record - love, love, LOVE "Love & Logic."Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07276000726366302069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134242791095743131.post-75693900466847962112009-03-20T22:01:00.000-05:002009-03-20T22:01:00.000-05:00We are big love and logic fans too and it works so...We are big love and logic fans too and it works so well with our 13 and 14 year old. With 14 yr old, we have been doing it for 5 years and he has improved so much. We have just had our 13 year old a year and he is a tough cookie.. We are starting with natural consequences which ALWAYS work. He hates them but like you said....lots of empathy..our favorite saying is "too bad for you...but we know you will get it one day..we believe in you"<BR/><BR/>Lots of people dont understand....thanks for being vulnerable and continuing to share! Peace to your and yoour household!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com