tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134242791095743131.post6028628808592131806..comments2023-11-20T06:44:48.331-06:00Comments on LIVING WITH RAD: Living with RADBrendahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05811548306583601019noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134242791095743131.post-30747618525855180442008-11-16T17:18:00.000-06:002008-11-16T17:18:00.000-06:00Hey, I was diagnosed with RAD and was a 'problem c...Hey, I was diagnosed with RAD and was a 'problem child' and I just want to see if I can try to shed some light on your last questions.<BR/><BR/>What does living with a teen look like when you pull back? - I just want to say, my adoptive parents pulled back when I was teen, and I eventually ran away. It was like a message to me saying 'Oh look, I was right along. They really don't love me and here's the sign.' And I just want to say in my experience, I'm sorry I caused my adoptive family all the pain that I did, but I wish they had always kept up their 'consistantcy'. I too, hoped that there would be that breakthrough. I hope that you keep trying to make it known to your RAD teen that no feelings of love have changed. I was sort of an emotional wreck after running away, like 'what now?' and stumbled around confused. You're the best chance this boy's got. No matter how much he might imagine there's somebody else out there that might love him more and loving you is betraying that, the odds are that that's not likely. <BR/><BR/>When you no longer are expecting...? I'm not sure exactly, but you could look at it like these last few years with him is your 'golden hour' to prepare him for life. I know it must be one of the most frustrating, hardest things to do. And I wish I could take back the frustration I caused my adopted parents more than they will ever know.<BR/><BR/>I also just want to tell you that in my case, guilt has worked a miracle in me. I guess it is my compass. Maybe if you try being the victim and showing him how afraid you are and how much it hurts you, it will induce guilt and calm him down? Then again, if you feel like taht won't work, then it probably won't, as I'm a completely different person anyway. Also, the guilt never really worked with my adoptive parents (because ı thought they always thought I was the lowest of the low and were just 'dealing' with me), just people who already had high expectations of me did I feel guilty, when they inevitably found something 'wrong' with me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134242791095743131.post-24074994272136482152008-11-10T15:18:00.000-06:002008-11-10T15:18:00.000-06:00I'm looking forward to reading your attachment the...I'm looking forward to reading your attachment therapist's reply.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05816466342768789620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134242791095743131.post-8542697155356808772008-11-10T12:52:00.000-06:002008-11-10T12:52:00.000-06:00Would you believe I have it in my cart at Amazon r...Would you believe I have it in my cart at Amazon right now? I just need to go ahead and place the order.Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05811548306583601019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134242791095743131.post-72997102746236131962008-11-10T12:46:00.000-06:002008-11-10T12:46:00.000-06:00Have you tried MegaRed. It is omega3 and has work...Have you tried MegaRed. It is omega3 and has worked great for both my depression and my son's bipolar. It works in days. And the source is krill so the pills are tiny but pack a lot of omega in them.<BR/>Linda NAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com