tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134242791095743131.post4011008998628007426..comments2023-11-20T06:44:48.331-06:00Comments on LIVING WITH RAD: Indiscriminate affection/lack of affection/RADBrendahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05811548306583601019noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134242791095743131.post-65947742799378714662011-12-17T09:31:14.801-06:002011-12-17T09:31:14.801-06:00My son (technically step-son;5 years) probably has...My son (technically step-son;5 years) probably has some form of an attachment disorder (we are just now being told by his counselor that she believes he was neglected and psychologically abused by his mom). For years he was a tree, then one day it clicked with me - maybe if I tell him what I'm doing, he'll accept it, he hugs others (relatives outside of the immediate family and family friends that are virtually strangers). So I began telling him "I'm hugging you" each time I hugged him. Pretty soon, the rest of my family caught on and began doing the same. My "B" (this is his nickname) willingly accepts hugs now after over a year of doing this, he even melts into him. The strange after-effect of the situation: he announces that he is hugging you. It's a little odd for a child to do this, but announcing a hug is better than not accepting one. We still struggle with him (arguing, taking joy in other's misfortunes, having to continue to visit his mother despite the past treatment because she is no longer neglecting/abusing him, regressing after he returns from his visits, etc), but we are making progress. Thanks for your blog! I was wondering how other parents were dealing - don't know anyone around here with a child like my "B". :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134242791095743131.post-49426931138879209012011-05-04T20:47:38.857-05:002011-05-04T20:47:38.857-05:00I hug trees...at least they don't reject meI hug trees...at least they don't reject meAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134242791095743131.post-34162997613318325042008-03-12T01:00:00.000-05:002008-03-12T01:00:00.000-05:00That is the one and only area my child with RAD di...That is the one and only area my child with RAD differs from the textbook. She is ALWAYS willing to accept a hug. In a nice way. She does do the rejection asking though. And every other indicator there is.Reneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11350536302914589901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134242791095743131.post-29628732060502609862008-03-12T00:31:00.000-05:002008-03-12T00:31:00.000-05:00My little tree feels more like hugging a porcupine...My little tree feels more like hugging a porcupine :-(<BR/>Linda NAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134242791095743131.post-54934135617746469272008-03-11T17:19:00.000-05:002008-03-11T17:19:00.000-05:00You all are too funny. Great information though!You all are too funny. Great information though!Rachellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10486707579236269011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134242791095743131.post-18857925052594224072008-03-11T13:35:00.000-05:002008-03-11T13:35:00.000-05:00Denise,You are always so kind. For some reason th...Denise,<BR/><BR/>You are always so kind. For some reason the phrase "Can't see the forest for the trees" comes to mind but I have no idea why. I'm sure it is deep though ; )Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05811548306583601019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134242791095743131.post-52876754940328381682008-03-11T13:08:00.000-05:002008-03-11T13:08:00.000-05:00Well, now that I have recovered from the flu...aga...Well, now that I have recovered from the flu...again, I was able to catch up. Great information! It's always amazing to me, no matter how many times or in how many ways it's presented, just how complicated RAD is. Unfortunately, I understand completely how that "tree" feels; I just can't imagine wrapping my arms around two of them! The strength and courage you have been blessed with through all this is something for the rest of us to embrace. I hope that some day I can walk with the same grace and confidence you do. Love you.Denisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09124188649821289428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134242791095743131.post-34706055895239361812008-03-11T09:48:00.000-05:002008-03-11T09:48:00.000-05:00Hmmm. I guess that would sound funny....It is a ve...Hmmm. I guess that would sound funny....It is a very common description used in the RAD world. Sometimes I forget how things sound to everyone else. It was not an enviornmental statement : )Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05811548306583601019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3134242791095743131.post-86169904804628400662008-03-11T08:13:00.000-05:002008-03-11T08:13:00.000-05:00Hugging trees, huh? You crack me up, Brenda.Hugging trees, huh? You crack me up, Brenda.Tamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12344112481831867779noreply@blogger.com